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Trust issues? ??

     Having slight trust issues in your relationship doesn't necessarily spell doom . Trust is a feeling and just like joy, sadness and other feelings it might waver.However trust is the basis of any good relationship, with business associates or family, it is quite beneficial if our partners have complete trust in us as we should have in them too.    When someone makes a mistake once sometimes it shatters our trust in them and eventually our relationship. In some cases though our partners have not even done anything worth distrusting them for, we just feel that way . If this happens, what may be the reason, the solution?    First I believe there's no smoke without even a little fire somewhere, you have to find out the root of the problem.Try to remember when you started feeling this way and what triggered such emotions . When you find the source, try to be rational.Ask yourself, are your feelings baseless? Is your partner doing something that is sending off the wrong vibes?

Ten important questions; for new lovers.

  It's Yenique again and today I am here to help lovers navigate the unsure waters of a new relationship. Starting a relationship can be a little awkward, questions arise "how do I get to know what he/she likes? ","what if we are just not compatible?"...and so on . Well really those questions on your mind should be answered and I suggest that in a light mood you two should get together,sit down and ask each other whatever you need to know. Please try to be truthful in your replies.    I came across alot of questionnaires whilst surfing the net for perfect compatibility questions. I found some really interesting stuff that I thought about sharing with you but I finally decided to share my own questions. Short and on point these ten questions would give you an insight into your partner's thoughts and could help you in dealing with them.    Remember being truthful about your answers is the key. ..here they are *Do you prefer good looks over cleverness? *How

Is it just for the sex?

Having second thoughts about your so-called relationship? Does your partner act like for him it's just about the sex? Are the romantic feelings one-sided? I'ld tell you what. ..there are too many fishes in the river to waste your time catching an inedible one. If you think he's using you..."run" out of the relationship. Do not judge hastily though, let's put him to the test.    Just answer these questions as truthfully as you can to yourself *Does he claim he's busy all week and then when he calls it's for you guys to hook up?    Let me say this, no one is too busy to call a loved one. I have a friend who is so busy at work,but takes rest room breaks to call his girlfriend. Don't compromise on this, if he ignores you for a whole week and only calls when he can get some "booty",shake him off. *Does he excuse himself immediately after sex?     He claims he has something to do, or somewhere to go. You just notice that he just has to le

Styling right; know what fits your face

Ladies check out the shape of your head and see your celebrity shape look-alike. Hair style experts advice that you know the shape of your head before you choose an hairstyle so let me share what I learnt with you. *first you have to know your head shape...snap your face up close and try not to smile or smirk while doing that. *try to compare your shape to general face shapes, use this picture. * for a square face, wiki how suggests you play with the angles *for a round face however create angles to frame your face. *balance an oval face with layers *accent the heart shaped face with the right length. ..not too long or short.     Given all this they advice that still do not stay in your comfort zone with your hair, explore sometimes . Always remember that the best hairstyles are the ones that do not require you to fluff it out, comb it through or hold it down all the time before it looks great. #Yenique Photo credit  ...hair fashion-online. Blogspot

The 90 days rule; Make it or break it.

Steve Harvey can be blamed for bringing the 90 days rule back guys. ..yea almost all chics who read that book started giving the rule a second thought. We ladies have always thought of ways to ascertain our man's true feelings for us but do you think making him wait three months before you give him sex is the way?? Let's explore this chains of thought.    Actually sometimes it separates the wheat from the shaft, some guys are just with you for the sex anyway and if they can't get what they want "sharpaly" they disappear. Some girls however make these rules for the wrong reasons, some think it makes them a good girl in sight of the guy but that's not always true.    Some guys however do not mind how fast you jump into bed with them, they care about all other things. ..how good you are around the house, your cooking, your intelligence and the rest.So if you give them 90 days or not your attitude is your key.    On the other hand relationships cannot be predic

Revive your relationships

Long term relationships shouldn't be a bore, that feeling of freshness should still be there. You are probably sneering and saying "that's easy to say" well it's easy to do too. Keeping long term relationships can be seen as hard work expecially when both parties just fall into a routine and there's no fun anymore. I bring hopeful news going into a new relationship isn't the best way out because whether you like it or not it would grow old too.The easiest way out is to spice things up, ask me how here are a few tips. .. *Do not give up your interests or hobbies or even work for your partner, if you have already try to restore . Having two distinctly independent lives helps alot, there's always something new to talk about, and information or experience to share. That alone keeps you together. *No matter how long you two have been together never stop leading your listening ears.If you make your partner uncomfortable talking to you you are just pushing

Cheating : a woman's perceptive

Insatisfaction on one level over-satisfaction on another, there are numerous reasons why women cheat. We all know women are complex creations but saying they don't know what they want ain't true.   Sometimes it's a question of what she wants and if she's getting it from you... #Her dream:do you fit into her picture of a perfect partner? Not all women want the cool guys in the fancy suits, each woman as well as men have a stereotype they fall for. Some pretty decent women want the crazy looking dudes.If you are that attentive try to find out the sort of man that makes her tickle if you are far from it she'ld probably leave you if she meets him. #woo her:funny how these days men please their women with just gifts, money, brazillian hair, Givenchy bags and trips abroad. Ok don't get me wrong we love the gifts but do not forget the necessary things a relationship needs. ..sge needs to be reminded that you love her.Tell her how much you love her don't let th

Side things s

Hi friends well I am here again and today I am talking about side chics...wait before the guys turn around I am pleased to tell you there are side dudes too. The point here is how do we know we are the side "anything" cos believe me finding out too late hurts even more. To begin with when I say side chic/dude I mean the extra partner, you know (the irrelevant one that only acts as a subordinate to the chairperson).But then again let me make this clear,no matter how bad you think you are you deserve your own man/woman.You are better than being a sub.      For the chics *I am sure he must have mentioned his main chic's name or referred to her at least once during your discussions, jokingly or as part of a serious convo.He might be so good at keeping secrets but her name would pop out. *see he would probably lie that she's an ex or something but watch out he never says any negative thing or mostly just doesn't want to go deep into her talk with you. *she calls

Masstopation

Masturbation is defined as the sexual stimulation of one's or someone else's genitals for sexual satisfaction, in this case I'ld like to talk about one's. For either genderMasturbation has been known to release tension, infact a while back whilst researching RLS (restless leg syndrome) it was suggested as a possible way of easing the discomfort the condition brings.Releasing sexual tension, letting off steam from work, reacting to exposure to porn whatever or however it gets to you is it really ok to? Am not totally against the act sometimes it is beneficial. I discovered that the overtime effects of Masturbation are not so pleasant though For example when you masturbate there's a high tendency of you painting a picture of your sexual partner in your head and usually that partner is extremely perfect. The only problem with this image is you hardly meet such people in reality and this makes you go back to your image every now and then before you know it you become

The casualties

This poem is inspired by J.P Clark's poem THE CASUALTIES.Though we do not speak of the same casualties. The casualties are not the many headless bodies at Nyanya They are well out of it Though going to your grave in bits and pieces is a casualty on its own The casualties are not the kidnapped chibok girls They are a part of it Waking up to "inhuman faces", possible murder and/or vitiation is not just a casualties It is a calamity The casualties are not the hapless Jos students who lost their heads in a battle they weren't involved in They were mere signalling smoke used to warn of the casualties ahead The casualties are the shocked mothers, wives, daughters of the gentlemen whose last view in life was their country loosing a match They are the grieving leftover family recognizing their deads through body parts They are the many schoolgirls in chibok's surrounding villages that would never set their feet in school again They are the