Breaking it easily

       The other day I wrote about how to deal with a break up today's article deals with the art of breaking up without sounding or acting insensitive. Like I said the other time leaving a relationship is just as hard as entering into one. You might think it's really easy if you are the one calling it quits but when really faced with such situation (and if you are a sensitive person).Well there are steps to take and things to do that make breaking up much easier.
   #First do not ever break up with someone over the phone, calls, texts, emails, pings are a no no . That's the first step to being extremely insensitive.
#Don't also do that in a private setting, you might get too emotional and let your guards down.
#You don't need to do the "it's not you it's me thing", it's absolutely unnecessary but then don't be so direct and spiteful when giving him/her the reasons why you want out.Be mild but also let him/her know your decisions are final.
#Don't sound too happy to end it and also be careful not to sound like you don't mean it. Make sure your real thoughts on the matter can't be seen on the surface. No matter how happy you are or even if you have a new lover make sure those details are for your thoughts only.
   #Just in case your partner decides to flair up or cry don't react in like manner. Don't act cruel or scream when you are screamed at.Always always imagine yourself on the other side.
     Be in love friends because there's nothing as beautiful as loving or being loved. #Yenique
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