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You are what you post!   Yes yes we hear you are what you eat, drink, say and so on, I bet though that you have not heard about being what you post. When I say post I mean on social media, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter etc.   By now we all should realize the world is a global village and anyone with a cellphone and as much as your phone number or Instagram id. Or even your nickname can get enough information on you that makes or mar your image.   Sometime back a colleague chatted me up pretty worried because he thought I was going through a heartbreak, I wasn’t, he however thought so because of the very gloomy pictures that I had kept using as my DP(display picture) over a couple of days. In his mind he had created an image (which was fuelled by me) of this heartbroken girl that could not hold it together she had to start posting pictures relating to her situation. Since that incident I became ever watchful of what was on my DP, I didn’t and still don...

          Hi dears, I am sure by now everyone knows how inconsistent my posts here have become...I'm quite sorry and I am working on creating a balance between everything.           Today's post springs from something I have found myself battling with recently and I would love to share my thoughts on the matter.            I am undeniably an Internet addict, I mean a junkie who can't possibly survive a few hours (not to imagine a whole day) without Internet. This is sad and I am trying so desperately to uncling myself from this "frenemy". Overtime I have gone to the internet for information, knowledge and sometimes to learn new skills, I hate to be in the dark on any subject whatsoever and my inquisitiveness was satiated online, unfortunately I took it to the next level.            I began looking...

Hey beautiful people due to the immense love I've got for you I give you this advice. Always always use a condom when getting some sugar. This advice never gets old....it saves you from a lot. Unwanted pregnancy Deadly diseases and all.Just in case you fall into the category of guys who say it isn't so sugary when you use a condom, well here's something for you. *Make sure you only put the condom on a very erect and aroused penis...after all the touch touch. Be aroused and it's more fun. *Don't put your mind on it,just erase the idea that there's a layer between you and those walls. *Make sure there's still contact between your bodies during the act. *wink wink* enjoy safe and sweet love making dearies....it's yenique. See you guys later, meanwhile add me up on Facebook at www.facebook.com/yenique9ja....I love you all.

Our hearts do not have a remote control so sometimes we find ourselves falling in love seemingly "uncontrollably ".Love at first sight or Love at first uhmm according to Wale's lyrics in Lotus flower, this feeling can be quite spontaneous and we find ourselves acting completely off track and when asked we blame it on love.   Not to burst your bubbles though but not all such feelings are actually love most are just "lust in disguise ".Some culminate in long lasting relationships but some go awry and turn into an over rushed thing that would eventually die out. After studying such situations closely I noticed there's actually a trend and I decided to put out a list of my top five (5) signs that shows you are in a "rush rush" relationship and give tips on how to slow it down so you can get the best out.    #You paint your new partner perfect : "he's the cutest guy ever", "oh she's more caring than all my ex'es put together...

       The other day I wrote about how to deal with a break up today's article deals with the art of breaking up without sounding or acting insensitive. Like I said the other time leaving a relationship is just as hard as entering into one. You might think it's really easy if you are the one calling it quits but when really faced with such situation (and if you are a sensitive person).Well there are steps to take and things to do that make breaking up much easier.    #First do not ever break up with someone over the phone, calls, texts, emails, pings are a no no . That's the first step to being extremely insensitive.   #Don't also do that in a private setting, you might get too emotional and let your guards down.   #You don't need to do the "it's not you it's me thing", it's absolutely unnecessary but then don't be so direct and spiteful when giving him/her the reasons why you want out.Be mild but also let him/her know your decisions ...

   It's another interesting Monday and I have another list of great relationship tips for the ladies. Here's a list of things we shouldn't be caught dead doing in our relationships. ..if however you have found yourself doing some or even all of it, please stop. This is yenique's top seven don't do list.      # Don't loose your personality for a man. Ladies keep being who you were before the relationship started don't alter your life, friends and all that you were because you have a new man.You had a life before you met him please keep living it.       # Don't go into a relationship with the intention of changing a man.Of course there ain't ready men out there but his likable attributes should be more than the unlikeable ones .You might end up trying to change him till even after marriage.        # Don't settle for less than you want. You have a standard don't break it down because of your desperation...

   Many times I hear women say "oh I gave it to him too soon" for them that sends a bad message "I'm too cheap","I can't control myself", "I'm a sex freak" blah blah blah. Is all that necessarily true? I generally believe that if a guy wants something serious with you and you stick to the 90 days rule, it's fine, if you give him the cookie straight up, it's fine. I mean his initial response shouldn't be "she slept with me ah ahah I'm so done".He should know there's more cookie where that came from and usually the crunchier ones are below the jar.      Any half decent man should know there's more to a relationship than sex, he should want to tap into these other resources. Pay attention to these           *If a guy wants just sex from you, if you like hold back for a thousand days once he gets it, he's out.           *That theory of "chop and go" is for immature nit-...

    Hi everyone it's a beautiful Monday and I hope you are having a swell time. I noticed that dating, relationships and even our general attitude towards sex have been gender plagued for generations. Starting from who asks who out, to who should take who on a date, to who instigates sex and so on, our roles have been set.It's not just a naija thing but we naija babes are extra shy when it comes to things like that.       So many chics have found themselves in situations where they have a huge crush and they say or do nothing about it. They don't want to come across as cheap or easy. Keeping your feelings to yourself isn't a pleasant thing, especially when the other party seems not to notice anything. However I am not saying we ladies should come out of our protective shells just yet but there are ways to flirt with a guy that wouldn't be too obvious yet a lot suggestive.Here are a few tips      #talk to him, talk about anyth...

  Hi everyone it's another yenique Monday and I am doing this on the road. I hope the rest of you are enjoying the holiday.Today it's for the ladies,I came across an article online that talked about the types of men we shouldn't date and I agree with the writer. Let me *remix* her list for you.   #mr angry      This type of men can be extra caring, hot looking boyfriend. This type of men can be very volatile too. You will never know what made his mood change and why on the earth he is behaving like this. Do not date a volatile man...it would only come back to hunt you.     # 'Aww-I'm-just-a-kid' man You should date a man. This type of guys are not fully grown up. They are happy in extending their childhood and teenage. You will be surprised to see how much he will be dependent on you.Yea I have met quite a few and they can be annoying.         #I need you so much guy This type of guys are just too emotiona...

  Having been away for a while I solemnly renew my vows to you dear fans of yenique9ja and I promise that come hell or high waters I would never be away for that long again.Enjoy my first post after my exam break. Recently it has become popular amongst girls and guys too to date more than one person at the same time,trying to give them equal love, affection and attention. General reason "I want to be on the safe side".A few of my friends even quote proverbs "don't put all your eggs in one basket" yea right blah blah blah.    Giving two people equal levels of love and attention can be difficult and ultimately dangerous. By now you should know I don't support any form of cheating and I do not think it's cool to share your body and feelings between two or more people. Also a lot of things could go wrong.    # for one you could get your heart tangled up.Feelings can be very unstable and sometimes when you find yourself trying to feel the same way about tw...

   When your partner makes a mistake or does something out of context what's your reaction? We all have various ways of dealing with issues but today we'ld talk about the ladies way out. ..NAGGING. Yea ladies we know we have to say something when our partners do anything wrong but do we have to repeat it over and over again and usually in an annoying high pitched voice?    We go "I told you so hmmmm didn't I? You wouldn't listen, now see everything shey I told you...blah blah blah" babe you're sounding like a broken record. I'm with the guys on this one Nagging is a grievous sin.The problems with nagging are numerous it's the worst approach to dealing with issues, let me quote BJ Gallagher a very notable relationship expert "nagging women are verbally castrating their husbands, emasculating them and turning them into resentful or resigned wusses...".I wouldn't want to turn my boyfriend into a wuss, would you? Nagging gradually turns ...

   Leaving a relationship is just as hard as entering one, especially when it's the other party that wants out. When we find ourselves in such situations we are at a complete loss, not too worry though let's go through the stages together and learn how to deal with it.     First it's okay to brood, you can think about it. Think of what went wrong and what you did to contribute to the break up. The problem starts only when you start putting more blame on yourself than your partner. Secondly you are free to be emotionally down. ..it doesn't mean you are weak.    For a while you might miss your partner and just wish to patch things up, this feelings are normal but never go through with it.Let the hurt in but don't try to get back with your ex, you'ld only find yourself back where you started. Whenever you feel like running back into his/her arms surround yourself with friends and/or other activities.    Yea we know you can be friends with you...

  There's always a dark corner in every room, no matter how lit up it looks. So it's completely ok if you have some things you've done in the past that you ain't proud of.The issue here is do you need to tell your partner? Is it necessary to?    In life we have all made one mistake or two, some people have made huge mistakes while others have just teenie tiny secrets. Although trust and faithfulness is built on honesty keeping secrets can sometimes be a blessing.You just have to study your partner well before deciding which step to take.    Some people *like me* don't really want to know all the details, especially when it has something to do with a member of the opposite sex.If you go "confessing" all your sexcapades to such people you might end up loosing them.It doesn't mean that the person resents you, some people just don't know how to deal with such situations.    On the other hand some partners want to know every detail, juicy or sour.Wel...

   It's probably stale news now that most guys sugar coat their intentions when asking a girl out, and also most ladies fall for the sugar coated promises. Although I am all out for saying the truth when relationships are concerned. ..you want sex and companionship, just say it. Well since you won't and we don't have anyway of knowing what's really on your mind...Let's turn the table around for you.    My first advice is to stop looking and acting desperate, ladies let me inform you,guys can see through your actions and play on your desperation. I know we all want a solid relationship that might lead into something more but he doesn't need to know all that on the first date. Stop asking him about marriage and the like as soon as he asks you out.Things like that actually take time and mostly happens spontaneously, it's not like he'ld see you and immediately know you are his future wife.    Take things slow, as always that's the way to go. I'm no...