When your partner makes a mistake or does something out of context what's your reaction? We all have various ways of dealing with issues but today we'ld talk about the ladies way out. ..NAGGING. Yea ladies we know we have to say something when our partners do anything wrong but do we have to repeat it over and over again and usually in an annoying high pitched voice?
We go "I told you so hmmmm didn't I? You wouldn't listen, now see everything shey I told you...blah blah blah" babe you're sounding like a broken record. I'm with the guys on this one Nagging is a grievous sin.The problems with nagging are numerous it's the worst approach to dealing with issues, let me quote BJ Gallagher a very notable relationship expert "nagging women are verbally castrating their husbands, emasculating them and turning them into resentful or resigned wusses...".I wouldn't want to turn my boyfriend into a wuss, would you? Nagging gradually turns reprimanding into hateful resentment. It makes the guy feel like he's less of a man especially when you keep hammering on the same faults everyday. There are other ways of dealing with your partner's imperfections.
Carefrontation as one online journal calls it is a gentler way of getting your frustrations out. Sit your partner down and gently (no high pitched voice needed) tell him what he's doing wrong. Tell him why it upsets you and how glad you'ld be if he changes. This way you are appealing to his psyche and that shows how much you respect his feelings.
Although I believe so much in talking things out with your partner some guys just wouldn't budge.There's another approach *sit down dey look*, don't mind the grammar but I'm sure you get my point. Sit it out, simply wait for him to make the mistake or repeat the offensive act and still say nothing. Don't even say "I told you so", just ignore him and I'm quite sure that when he's at a crossroad he'ld come to you for help.
I hope we nagging ladies do work on our approach and I'm sure you'd find out it's easier this way. Please get back to me on Facebook www.facebook.com/Yenique9ja or add me up Olufunke Ayeni. You can send messages to my inbox and I'ld be sure to respond. Have a yenique weekend friends xoxo #Yenique.
Forgiveness is the problem, I think. People nag because an unforgivable thing happened. The rule could be that anything that happened more than 2 weeks ago is no longer fair game. Here's a little poem that I wrote:
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Without forgiveness love cannot endure
Fault will be felt fueling anger and more
Trust and acceptance binding two hearts
Forgive and forget and just move on
A business has failed; down on his luck
Some mistakes were his faults others got fucked
Shit happens she says, we'll make it don't fret
Holding hands, side by side, overcoming regret
They play the blame game with ostrich feathers
They weather the weather whenever together
Love overcomes what words just can't describe
Just to live my life, forever at your side
Warren Goff 12-23-2013
Nagging has become second nature for most ladies and I know that we guys can be irrational somtimes, but nagging u will never solve the problem *smiles*
ReplyDeleteYea Warren that's true women especially tend to be unforgiving thereby complaining about the same things over and over. Lovely poem as always looking forward to more of this here.Anonymous nagging never solves the problem I just hope women understand this *smiles*
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