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Why does he cheat?

Top of the morning to you my dear readers...if you are reading this at a later time good day to you.Our dear naija boys are the topic of discussion again today. I want to look at cheating from a man's perspective and not just any man but our very own home boys.
   Babes be like "I give him everything, why does he still cheat?".Why does he cheat despite the fact that he shows me so much affection? Questions questions,now let's look at the answers.
  Men generally have the ability to detach their emotions from sex, they can sleep with someone who they don't even like. Understanding this is the first step to understanding why they cheat.So sometimes when your man cheats it's not because he's fallen out of love with you.
   They say "it's cheating only when you are caught" that statement is one top reason why Nigerian guys cheat.They feel they will get away with it. According to them, no harm's done. Most times they know even if they are caught you will forgive them.Stop giving your man that impression.
   For some guys though it's about ego and peer pressure. "Everyone's doing it and if I don't I'ld look weak".For others they can't just say no. Most guys that can't say no are the ones who are hardly flattered by their own girl friends. When they get flattering from a new girl they are swooned, if you're not careful the new girl can completely win them over. That's the power of always reminding your man of how much you love him and speaking less of his faults .
    Still some men cheat because they cherish you too much to try out their sexual fantasies with you. They need someone else, someone whom they feel nothing for. The only way around this is to try satisfying his desires. I'm sure you've heard of "Ada Ada in the day and Caro at night.". You can be a good girl and still show your man good loving.
    There are some men though that are plain cheats. ..no reason. They just think it's normal. No solution for such cases. It's either you get used to it or you leave.
   In all,understanding your partner is everything. Thanks for reading. ..waiting for your comments.Get back to me here or on Facebook www.facebook.com/Yenique9ja.
         #Yenique

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