There's always a dark corner in every room, no matter how lit up it looks. So it's completely ok if you have some things you've done in the past that you ain't proud of.The issue here is do you need to tell your partner? Is it necessary to?
In life we have all made one mistake or two, some people have made huge mistakes while others have just teenie tiny secrets. Although trust and faithfulness is built on honesty keeping secrets can sometimes be a blessing.You just have to study your partner well before deciding which step to take.
Some people *like me* don't really want to know all the details, especially when it has something to do with a member of the opposite sex.If you go "confessing" all your sexcapades to such people you might end up loosing them.It doesn't mean that the person resents you, some people just don't know how to deal with such situations.
On the other hand some partners want to know every detail, juicy or sour.Well I think it's safe to let it out...but gradually.Watch for his/her reactions before you go all the way. When you notice your piece of information is getting on the wrong nerves just shut it.Like I always say we humans are quite complex, we think we want to know but deep down we can't deal with it. For example a guy tells you to feel free and tell him about the crazy things you have done and the moment you tell him about an abortion, he withdraws.He really wanted to know but it still can't change the fact that he resents you for it. So be watchful and divulge information slowly.
What ever comes out of it don't hate yourself for something you've done in the past...there's always room for change. If your partner doesn't appreciate or believe that then he/she didn't genuinely care.Secrets do leave opportunity for ruin in a relationship so try to be as open and plain as possible. Get back to me on Facebook www.facebook.com/Yenique9ja or add me on Facebook Olufunke Ayeni.Have a lovely weekend people xoxo #Yenique.
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