Love, love, love...that's all a mother has for her child, what a boy hopes for in his lover, what makes him marry her, what he hopes his child feels for him...on and on and on. But what is love? A feeling of commitment?, an inexplicable joy and peace around a particular person, a tight thorny thread that you spin a circle of gold (according to Sarah Maclachlan). Whatever you feel it is love is mostly a fusion of confusing and sometimes conflicting emotions, you want it, it hurts you, you can't get enough, you wants more, you want less...on and on.
Today I want to say the things love are and are not according to me, or at least to a survey I have done from personal experience.
****Love is****
*Blind: Yes just like that blind statue in all court buildings (ubi societas something something), love doesn't select, doesn't judge, doesn't see the clothes or cars.
*Endless: I am not saying you don't fall out of love but somehow true feelings of love stay for ages, fading but present there somewhere.
*Jealous: This is true, even for y'all that claim I don't care what she/he does...it's not true. Love comes with territoriality, you don't want someone else ruling in your domain.
*Giving: You can't be stingy in love...not necessarily money. You give your time, your respect, your body...everything and sometimes get nothing back but you still keep giving.
*Respectful: No man or woman (in my survey) has been found to love without giving each other at least a little respect...it comes with the terrain.
*Forgiving: I didn't say forgetting but sincerely letting go of the grudges. Lobe can't hold on to his/her partners wrong doing.
****Love is usually NOT****
*Faithful: I hate to say this but loving someone doesn't mean you can't cheat on that person. You cheat with your body sometimes and your mind is somewhere else. Not like I am endorsing this but it's just a sad truth I have come to accept.
*Honest: Honesty is a virtue but it can destroy a lot ofttimes so don't blame your partner when a little (or large) detail is left out of conversations. It's sometimes out of respect that all truths ain't spoken(revert to ****love is****). As hard as it to accept that lies can be told by someone who loves you, try to understand that some things are better left unsaid..."dazz all".
*Understanding: Sometimes you love someone but can't seem to get along on simple things, that's because love doesn't auto tune you into understanding and accepting how someone thinks or sees things.
Through and through love is sweet, love is fun and as confusing as it may seem humans always want and need someone to love. I fell in love with one man and have felt all the shades of love, what it is and what it is not with him and somehow i can't stop loving him(not saying anymore). Share your ideas on this subject with me...xoxoxoxoxo it's yenique.
Today I want to say the things love are and are not according to me, or at least to a survey I have done from personal experience.
*Blind: Yes just like that blind statue in all court buildings (ubi societas something something), love doesn't select, doesn't judge, doesn't see the clothes or cars.
*Endless: I am not saying you don't fall out of love but somehow true feelings of love stay for ages, fading but present there somewhere.
*Jealous: This is true, even for y'all that claim I don't care what she/he does...it's not true. Love comes with territoriality, you don't want someone else ruling in your domain.
*Giving: You can't be stingy in love...not necessarily money. You give your time, your respect, your body...everything and sometimes get nothing back but you still keep giving.
*Respectful: No man or woman (in my survey) has been found to love without giving each other at least a little respect...it comes with the terrain.
*Forgiving: I didn't say forgetting but sincerely letting go of the grudges. Lobe can't hold on to his/her partners wrong doing.
****Love is usually NOT****
*Faithful: I hate to say this but loving someone doesn't mean you can't cheat on that person. You cheat with your body sometimes and your mind is somewhere else. Not like I am endorsing this but it's just a sad truth I have come to accept.
*Honest: Honesty is a virtue but it can destroy a lot ofttimes so don't blame your partner when a little (or large) detail is left out of conversations. It's sometimes out of respect that all truths ain't spoken(revert to ****love is****). As hard as it to accept that lies can be told by someone who loves you, try to understand that some things are better left unsaid..."dazz all".
*Understanding: Sometimes you love someone but can't seem to get along on simple things, that's because love doesn't auto tune you into understanding and accepting how someone thinks or sees things.
Through and through love is sweet, love is fun and as confusing as it may seem humans always want and need someone to love. I fell in love with one man and have felt all the shades of love, what it is and what it is not with him and somehow i can't stop loving him(not saying anymore). Share your ideas on this subject with me...xoxoxoxoxo it's yenique.
Love is Abiola loving Abacha in hell fire.
ReplyDeleteLove is a Lion having a zebra as bff in the jungle.
@ anonymous very funny. True though
ReplyDeleteIts hard to ignore love though but....
ReplyDeleteBeen contented is a virtue that's an antidote of any form of "hurt"
Good write up though but it's not a subject rather it's a daily "event"
it's different at 40 and beyond
ReplyDeleteRhonda pls can u be more specific
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