MARRIAGING

Hi dears, I can't begin to apologize for my absence here. Writers block, Lagos traffic and a ton of insatiable clients kept me away. A lasting solution that would keep me active always is in the works.

Anyway there's been marriage fever everywhere, people are getting married (and breaking up) and making the single ones out there dream of their own magical-dress-in-white-day. Don't get me wrong I am not a hater of happy things I am not just ready because some boxes on my to-do before marriage list ain't ticked yet.

There are some basic things that we ladies need to do before we tie the knot, because the knot is really a knot that is not so easy to untie. A lot of young ladies out there get bored after getting married because they have to share all facets of their life with another individual. Here's a bucket list I put together of things to do before smiling to the alter with that man:

• Travel*** yes I mean it, go somewhere. See another town/state/country, with your friends, alone or with the "bae" just make sure you have the time of your life. Reason ***If you start having kids there's a possibility it would take a while before you have such alone time again.***You would likely go through a single girl's timeline and see her having fun and start feeling bored with your own life,this won't happen if you have had as much fun yourself.
•  Date someone else*** I am not saying be a bad b**ch ooo, I am only saying satisfy your curiosity and don't say there's none. Reason*** You might get to a point where your husband starts to bore you or annoy you, then you start thinking of all the lovely dudes who wanted you back then, if you had experience with some other person you would know that there was something peculiar about your husband that made you pick him, not like he was the only option. ***Naive women cheat more on their husbands as they want to explore, don't explore after marriage, explore now.
• Spend lengthy time with your "bae"***be with him, cook(even if you can't cook, make the drowning indomie like that), watch t.v together, sleep together(literal meaning) and all sorts. Reason***This makes you know what you are getting into shikena, if he's a werewolf on a full moon and other little details.
•   Decide if you want kids and ponder on this*** are you Kim K shape and don't want to ruin that but want to get married and have kids? Think about all the angles, do you want kids?When?How many? and all that. Reason***For some African men Children form the basis of marriage and believe me having a kid or two isn't an easy feat. Stay with people who have had theirs, be prepared and find the idea absolutely appealing so when it happens you are ready to take it on.
• Fight and make up***this is absolutely-completely-utterly-seriously important.A wise man once said "you only get to know someone after a brawl" Reason***people get to show their true feelings when angry, their fears, and underground issues with you come to the surface. That way you can decide to work it out before the big decision or you would find out you can't keep up with this person.

Being married is a lot of things and amongst them all FUN should come first and last. The foundation determines it all. Know what you are getting into and be prepared. As for me, I am ticking the boxes one by one when I get there y'all would be the first to know.

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