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Tuesday, 6 June 2017

Superstition(a poem)

The poem itself is just a reflection of how I perceive life. I believe in an innate sixth sense, one that directs us , guides us.

Often I remember those days that my heart seemingly pounded for no apparent reason only to have one exciting or sad thing happen later in the day. My body was aware and it had informed me.

Watch, look, feel...after all we are African.

***********Superstition**************
Listen patiently every morning
All elements are speaking
They tell you to move or stay
The wind blows this way and that
Speaking words only the sharp can understand

The way the sea rolls tell a tale of do or don't
An African mind should know how to forecast it's own "whether"
Seat still and let the pounding of your heart
The first feet you take
The sound of running water
Lead you home.

Monday, 5 June 2017

You are what you post!

You are what you post!

 

Yes yes we hear you are what you eat, drink, say and so on, I bet though that you have not heard about being what you post. When I say post I mean on social media, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter etc.

 

By now we all should realize the world is a global village and anyone with a cellphone and as much as your phone number or Instagram id. Or even your nickname can get enough information on you that makes or mar your image.

 

Sometime back a colleague chatted me up pretty worried because he thought I was going through a heartbreak, I wasn’t, he however thought so because of the very gloomy pictures that I had kept using as my DP(display picture) over a couple of days. In his mind he had created an image (which was fuelled by me) of this heartbroken girl that could not hold it together she had to start posting pictures relating to her situation. Since that incident I became ever watchful of what was on my DP, I didn’t and still don’t want anyone assuming things or situations about me.

More recently with the advent of  the “Facebook memory” feature I got constantly embarrassed by the things Facebook reminded me that I had done, posted, said, liked and friends I have made. Most times I am like “oh come on F$#^& what were you thinking” or “was that me?” and then I mostly thought “people shouldn’t have to see that”. Some posts were good but honestly most posts from 2011 or so were mostly childish, naïve, mostly about love and thoughtless. They absolutely do not define who I am, and I can imagine my present day colleagues, friends, even foes stumble on them, I mean they would look at me in a totally different light albeit a bad one.

Now let’s imagine I had known ever since that I am what I post at least in the eyes of lurkers, employers, friends, love interests and so on I would have been a tad more careful and thoughtful as to the pictures of me and posts I shared online. Imagine someone meeting you in church and he goes to search your name on Google, only to find the raunchiest pictures of you in the image section. You have created an image, an appalling one and in all fairness to you, you aren’t a “hoe”, just a girl who has fun a couple of times and likes to share this information with a few close friends. Well well a “few close friends” is the whole cyber space now and that person who stumbled upon your pictures won’t come asking for any explanations, people just assume.

 

So I went back to some of my online pages, including this blog and deleted a couple of things (including my articles with the highest views) because I am not best described or represented by those things and I wouldn’t want people creating a wrong impression about me before even getting the opportunity to hear me speak. Don’t get me wrong I am not saying, delete hence deny ever being young and naïve. I am saying, think twice before you post things. Look at your location, what you are wearing or saying, access your intent and the possible outcome, could they be passing the same message?

Posting online is like communicating with people who don’t know you and try being cautious so you don’t misinform them. Don’t go strutting half naked on Snapchat and then get pissed when a follower tells you he has a sugar daddy who likes you. For guys too, don’t pose in a private jet with money as pillow and then get mad when we say you are a “yahoo boy”, dude rich ass corporate guys don’t pose with money biko. If however you are a victim of your once silly past posts, please try going back through your timeline and erase them, you might not get all but enough to salvage your face.

 

I hope this makes sense?????? Do have a lovely week all xoxoxooxxxooo

 

 

Thursday, 9 March 2017

A poem

********Again*********(another poem about a broken heart)

A few months ago
In the season of thundery downpours
My heart lied to me
Yet again

I thought I heard it beat in sync with your heart
I thought it received signals from your heaving chest
Signals of truth and decision and love
Again

And again it slowly stopped beating
You had run a knife through it
Again, it fell apart
Broken, shattered and torn into a thousand pieces

My heart had lied to me again
Leading me one more time on a perilous journey
I feel betrayed by my very own self
To have believed a slitherer so

Again I know my poor heart's hurt
But never beyond redemption
For time heals all.

Tuesday, 7 March 2017

Song Review

Hi ya’all 😘so I’m here again and I feel I should actually begin to cover my face🙈 really, I am taking too many breaks from my sweet passion.

Well, abeg forgive me once again👊. So I am having a problem, an addiction. Jidenna’s new song Bambi👀👀, chai I have literally played this song to death😫. By now I’m sure Jidenna knows he’s some sort of wizard 👹but “dis song be messin wit me real byad”.

Na “youtube” start this craze, I think what interests me is the fact that the concept of the song is deep rooted African (and I am biased #killme😜). First, he’s in love with Bambi who he calls dear(Deer) and then he says he’s caught in a web and his grandfather had seven wives, which I assume means he has to have so many wives or at least another woman apart from Bambi too. Another Jungle like twist is the part he says “it’s my design, to run the jungle I must be a lion(liar) or cheetah(cheater)” well thank God one man agrees it’s their design😝😆. Then he talks about “the woman among the tribe”, the song’s rhythm, the beautiful vixen( and I am biased to pretty gyals too #killme😜), the fact that Jidenna had a mock/mild scruffled look somewhere in the video(gosh so classic man can sweat?😏😏)
and the crazy pun in the lyrics gat me hooked.

Here’s a link to watch the song on Youtube or download audio( hope that’s legal sha)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K0Eeju2aiGY
 https://www.naijavibes.com/2017/02/download-jidenna-bambi/

Ok, Naija songs that rock me this week are:

#eko Miami-Maleek Berry
#oh baby-Olamide
#Pass the agbara-Skuki

I would do a review of Ed Sheeran’s top charting songs next…watch this space..,muaaah

Thursday, 29 December 2016

Simple Rants(ii)

It's about to be a bright morning according to my phone's weather forecast which can be quite unreliable at times, and I was thinking of how "un-bright" we all seem to think 2016 was.

I for one definitely agree it was a very harsh financial year, with almost zero investments/savings and plenty plenty spending, but I am damn grateful. God kept us through it all, it was pretty tough but somehow we pulled through.

This year was sort of a year of deaths in the entertainment industry, especially towards the end, George Michael, Prince etc... but we are fine and I think we ought to be a bit grateful.

Yes, we can't wait for 2017 already, let it just "shimmy" in "abeg". I have some tips though to ace this coming year like a boss:

* Delete meaningless relationships/friendships and even family ties that seem to strangle you should be let loose.
*Make smart financial decisions-no ponzi schemes please. Don't bother with the headache and heart attacks attached to the numerous ponzi schemes coming up allegedly to help alleviate our poverty. It's a game called "Last-to-do-is-the-maga". Ponzi schemes are built like pyramids and at a point they get to their limit and no one
* Make yourself happy no matter what the year throws at you. This is the most important point though.
Smile
Enjoy yourself folks and happy new year in advance!!!!

XOXXXOOOO

Saturday, 24 December 2016

Simple rants (i)

So tonight I'm having the perfect excuse to rant, not rant more like talk about some other part of me I enjoy so much. My love for music, all genre, country, soul, funk, juju on dat beat errthing errthing. Sometimes I hear a song play by and I so desperately want to hear it again I find myself typing keywords from the lyrics into google search bar until I find just what I want and my face is priceless at that point.

Tonight I found Emilia's "Big Big World" and I was beyond elated, her semi-crying voice(same thing Adele does to get me all the time) and sweet innocence gets me irked, I mean how can one song be so perfect?

Here's a link to download the song directly...beautiful you'd see. 

http://mp3goo.com/get/g-hwcOUpKYntjOn91PM_FXCDFxoIkJQejraqMU_V0xpAXwXoGH7QHq5Y2GkiXg9bq1ha50wBrzdjVgVC-c1cuCu1j4SKll97xA46PFLTOvtlGcaJicA254mHMvpyd6xy/Emilia+-+Big+Big+World.html

There are some other songs that have given me the jitters every night recently:

# Heathens by Twenty One Pilots
#Hallelujah by Pentatonix
#Kenny Rogers' The Gambler
#Ric Hassani's Gentleman
and yes please my one time and all time love that is my current ringtone Side To Side by Ariana Grande.

PS: I listen to a lot of music, these are the ones on repeat the past few night.

XOXXOXX
Love you guys and I hope I get to be here more

Saturday, 22 October 2016

Ring_it

How many of your phone conversations go like this...

Caller: Where did you drop your phone, I've been calling all day, habba?
You: I'm so sorry, I even had like 5 missed calls, I didn't hear it ring.

Yea a lot shey?...well well here are a few tips to make your ring-tone "unignorable/unmissable" (don't bother trying to correct my grammar).

#1_ as much as you like that Enya/Celine Dion/Sade Adu's track, it's not ringtone worthy. It's for earpiece rocking and your personal pleasure. You need songs like Tekno's Pana or any random lil_kesh or Olamide's music as your ringtone to blast you into awareness.

#2_ put on your phone's vibration. That grrrrzzzzz can actually be felt across counter tops, your bed, pocket, bag. This is especially for those crowded market or party calls.

#3_ choose a music track that starts on a high note...not those that start on a slow tempo then increase as the song goes on. Choose strong beats that start right at the start.

#4_ it has to be a song you know, don't go and choose something that would be ringing near you and your mind does not recognize.

#5_ remember you have a phone. Don't be like those people that only remember their phones at bedtime.

My favourite music tracks for ringtones are: FUN's Some Nights, Tekno's Pana or Where, Ariana Grande ft Nicki Minaj Side to Side, any CDQ/Olamide/Lil kesh/Ycee songs...actually most Naija music.

1love peeps...I hope I made sense. Don't give up on Yenique9ja abeg, we are still here.

Check me out on instagram and facebook for more random musings

Saturday, 20 August 2016

Should we let love judge us, choose for us, change us or even chain us.
Several people think they ought to change their thinking, actions, characters to suite their lovers'. I am not saying you don't bend, but how much?
I think changing or losing your friends because of a relationship is the greatest mishap. If he/she has misgivings about your friends, sit and talk about it. You can create a middle ground (e.g keeping a little distance if you understand your partners fears or bringing him/her and your friends a little closer so he/she can get to know them more)
Let your partner understand and appreciate your individuality. You were someone prior to meeting him/her and that person still needs to breathe.
💞💋💝💕👊👍
‪#‎love‬ ‪#‎relationshipadvice‬ ‪#‎realtalk‬ ‪#‎loveadvice‬ ‪#‎breathe‬ ‪#‎friendship‬ #100%

Tuesday, 9 August 2016

Go and marry

You sit down with mummy for barely an hour, gisting happily, occasionally smiling into your phone and next thing you hear is "when am I meeting your husband sef?". As in I enter defence mode straight up, I'm like "don't start na".
I just unleashed the preacher/counsellor in my mom...she doesn't only start the questions and lecture last as Cele church on Sunday.😢. I tire.

All the dudes out there are still out playing na😒 where I wan see boyfriend (considering na husband she ask ooooo). Anyways the point is...you are the one that matters. Don't ever rush into any relationship cause of pressure from peers, parents or @bellanaija☺. Take your time to study and know your spouse very well. So you won't end up having plenty marital issues.

L👀👀k well before you leap.

Xoxoxox

#love #relationshipadvice #truelove #bellanaija #africanmum #african #africanparents

Saturday, 9 April 2016

A POEM

Dear Banker Marketer,

I see you wake up at 4'30, do you not miss your bed?
Is that tie not too tight?
The suit, Italian eh, the sun,consider it
You shall not be in the office but two hours
then into saka, odeku.The sun
Consider it.

Your pants are too tight...wouldn't it rip
Your hop from keke to bike
Wouldn't it rip

Is this who you are?
Or is there someone else inside?
Did you always dream of ties, excel sheets and targets?
Tell me.

Flee broad street and live your life again.
It's simple you know.

Consider it.

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Sunday, 31 January 2016

Question time

Ok I came across this hilarious video...a little insight though, can you date an Ex-hoe? or rather marry her? click to watch https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1IPtQCo-Ah8

DO I HAVE SOMETHING AGAINST TRANS PEOPLE?



At work today we had a mini-discussion about trans-gender folks, the sudden influx of these folks ehn….I am thinking Caitlyn Jenner set em’ loose. I am still in the middle with this situation (doesn’t mean I won’t poison my son/daughter/sibling born male or female that wants to Trans). I am in the middle as in generally I have been more sympathetic to the ladies who decide to turn male, no particular reason but I just assume they have more to lose than gain and if they feel the trouble is worth it then they do have an issue, let them solve it that way if they please.


As for those guys that Trans…na na na na na, that’s perverse, creepy, weird and totally unfair because some get away with it (until they talk). I have something against them…it’s not a question sef, I have a lot against them. The most annoying part is this surgery/ sex change is not a one off, they have hormone injections they have to keep taking to keep up. Second thing I have against them is their voice that CAN’T change…how can you have that hawt body and that bazzzy base voice? Third? There’s always an element of man in their hands, feet, and weird build…not nice. Moreover people like Caitlyn whom I totally adored as Bruce are giving senseless dudes hope. Caitlyn is just an attention starved madam who’s been parked in the back with the K-Klan success, and who has some seriously lose money to spend.

Moreover the surgery started as a sex reassignment surgery to help people with real questions about their gender, not the new age people who say “I am a lady in my head, just trapped in a man’s body” abeg come church let us do deliverance. These claims aren’t real and these are things that a good (willing) psychologist can help you sort out. A lot of things can make a lady want to be a man and vice versa but these thoughts aren’t permanent. It takes will and proper explanation that the procedure is complex and doesn’t turn you to a man or woman in all totality.

I think that genuinely some people have complex psychological/emotional reasons to assume they need a sex change but I don’t think it’s irreversible. This is where my Christian faith comes in, it’s incredulous…and non-acceptable for a Christian man/woman, even Muslims, if you or someone you know is passing through something like this please let me know, let me invite my pastors.

This is not an enlightening article…it’s a rant. Don’t bring this mess into Nigeria oooo.

Na yenique dey yan...ttyl...xoxooxox

Thursday, 7 January 2016

THIS THING CALLED LOVE!!!

Love, love, love...that's all a mother has for her child, what a boy hopes for in his lover, what makes him marry her, what he hopes his child feels for him...on and on and on. But what is love? A feeling of commitment?, an inexplicable joy and peace around a particular person, a tight thorny thread that you spin a circle of gold (according to Sarah Maclachlan). Whatever you feel it is love is mostly a fusion of confusing and sometimes conflicting emotions, you want it, it hurts you, you can't get enough, you wants more, you want less...on and on.

Today I want to say the things love are and are not according to me, or at least to a survey I have done from personal experience.
                                                   ****Love is****
*Blind: Yes just like that blind statue in all court buildings (ubi societas something something), love doesn't select, doesn't judge, doesn't see the clothes or cars.
*Endless: I am not saying you don't fall out of love but somehow true feelings of love stay for ages, fading but present there somewhere.
*Jealous: This is true, even for y'all that claim I don't care what she/he does...it's not true. Love comes with territoriality, you don't want someone else ruling in your domain.
 *Giving: You can't be stingy in love...not necessarily money. You give your time, your respect, your body...everything and sometimes get nothing back but you still keep giving.
*Respectful: No man or woman (in my survey) has been found to love without giving each other at least a little respect...it comes with the terrain.
*Forgiving: I didn't say forgetting but sincerely letting go of the grudges. Lobe can't hold on to his/her partners wrong doing.
                                       

                                             ****Love is usually NOT**** 
*Faithful: I hate to say this but loving someone doesn't mean you can't cheat on that person. You cheat with your body sometimes and your mind is somewhere else. Not like I am endorsing this but it's just a sad truth I have come to accept.
*Honest: Honesty is a virtue but it can destroy a lot ofttimes so don't blame your partner when a little (or large) detail is left out of conversations. It's sometimes out of respect that all truths ain't spoken(revert to ****love is****). As hard as it to accept that lies can be told by someone who loves you, try to understand that some things are better left unsaid..."dazz all".
*Understanding: Sometimes you love someone but can't seem to get along on simple things, that's because love doesn't auto tune you into understanding and accepting how someone thinks or sees things.

Through and through love is sweet, love is fun and as confusing as it may seem humans always want and need someone to love. I fell in love with one man and have felt all the shades of love, what it is and what it is not with him and somehow i can't stop loving him(not saying anymore). Share your ideas on this subject with me...xoxoxoxoxo it's yenique.



Sunday, 29 November 2015

WA-ZO-BIA

It's quite disheartening that Nigerians young and old are annoyingly tribalistic. There is unity in diversity as a wise man once said and honestly apart from language and a few cultural practices we are all the same. I was on Instagram a few minutes ago and there was this meme saying yoruba's are dirty/ugly/the cause of Naija's problem etc. , the meme didn't get to me as much as the arguments in the comments section. I didn't realize there was real hatred amongst Nigerians just because they are from different parts of the country.

Corruption, terrorism, insufficient resources, unemployment are amongst the numerous problems this country is facing and somehow in the midst of it all we find times to resent one another for stupid ethnic bias our very uninformed predecessors passed on. I say uninformed because they were less informed about other peoples or their traditions and that is not completely their fault. As the world is becoming more integrated we should also learn tolerance.

We cannot all have the same values or views about life, our sense of style doesn't have to be the same but we can learn to work together without resentment and a clean heart. It's no secret that a grudge-less heart actually knows more peace. Creating barriers in your mind might and eventually would set barriers for you in real life at some point. Even members of your tribe could turn out to have as many dissimilarities as possible with you. Just as we say no to racism in the world let us also stop the tribal bias we seem to only be brewing more.

Have any suggestions or thoughts please feel free to comment or message on facebook.

Regards. Yenique