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You sit down with mummy for barely an hour, gisting happily, occasionally smiling into your phone and next thing you hear is "when am I meeting your husband sef?". As in I enter defence mode straight up, I'm like "don't start na".
I just unleashed the preacher/counsellor in my mom...she doesn't only start the questions and lecture last as Cele church on Sunday.😢. I tire.

All the dudes out there are still out playing na😒 where I wan see boyfriend (considering na husband she ask ooooo). Anyways the point is...you are the one that matters. Don't ever rush into any relationship cause of pressure from peers, parents or @bellanaija☺. Take your time to study and know your spouse very well. So you won't end up having plenty marital issues.

L👀👀k well before you leap.

Xoxoxox

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