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What has social media done for or against you?

Personally I have sweet and sour tales from my social media addiction. I think by now everyone that knows me knows how addicted to the internet I am.

Well online I have made sales, learnt about SMEs', I once got a PR job through instagram(that turned out awful), I have been able to express myself through writing. Social media for me has been more of a blessing than a curse.

But then...there are the curses that make me check and double check when I am online. The first annoying thing that happened to me online was the job, tar@#$ put up an advert for an online PR manager and since I loved that I jumped at the offer. We argued about the pay for a while, then reached an agreement on work hours and pay. Babe breached agreement on both levels, I worked till 10pm sometimes, 12am once and I was living at least 2hours away from her studio. She was verbally abusive and damn she ended up not paying me a dime. All my efforts and little money in the bank gone. That b@t%$ had to ask "who diz?" When I called her a few weeks after quitting for my pay. I discovered later that was her tactic, she posts job openings(tantalizing ones), makes you work your ass off and then intentionally irritates you so you can quit. She has done this to several peeps, so now I just shake my head when I come across her posts on IG.

Something else about social media is the addiction, it's like a part of me that I can't cut off. That's totally not cool. I've met a few scammer boys too but I always find out their silliness before any harm is done. Except for this one dude that was all over me, so consistent and loving. Of course I was sceptical but the whole "mushiness" got to me, when I started falling I found out this guy's acclaimed ex is his fiancee. I carry my slippers run, e noh pain me sha cause I was treading softly initially so no damage done, but I kinda felt stupid(I could have been smarter).

Now all my bad experiences online(including writing for popular online magazines and not getting paid or getting your name edited out of the file) are not as much as the sweet ones. Online poetry forums, meeting friends who want nothing except ideas sharing and fun, knowledge, spying and hope are some of the few good things I've come across.

Care to share your social media experience?

Xoxoxo

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