Double dating trouble.

Having been away for a while I solemnly renew my vows to you dear fans of yenique9ja and I promise that come hell or high waters I would never be away for that long again.Enjoy my first post after my exam break.
Recently it has become popular amongst girls and guys too to date more than one person at the same time,trying to give them equal love, affection and attention. General reason "I want to be on the safe side".A few of my friends even quote proverbs "don't put all your eggs in one basket" yea right blah blah blah.
   Giving two people equal levels of love and attention can be difficult and ultimately dangerous. By now you should know I don't support any form of cheating and I do not think it's cool to share your body and feelings between two or more people. Also a lot of things could go wrong.
   # for one you could get your heart tangled up.Feelings can be very unstable and sometimes when you find yourself trying to feel the same way about two different people you could actually succeed,then what? Even you do realise you can't end up with the two of them, the big question then becomes who goes? At this stage no matter who you finally end up with there would still be a question hanging in the air.What if I chose the other would I have been better off? The relationship would always have that unsatisfactory feeling.
   # Another crazy possibility is you comparing partners. "She makes continental dishes, she makes local".You begin to compare and contrast flaws.This is a back and forth game it ends nowhere. Your mind would play tricks and mo matter how smart you are your uncertainty begins to ooze, your lack of commitment becomes obvious.
    #Yes dearies you could get caught and especially for we ladies that's not fun.Either by the one you are beginning to think is the one or even the two of them. You could loose all or be given another chance and always be a suspect.

As I said earlier double/multi dating isn't right. How about you fix your eggs very carefully in one basket and handle the basket with care. Try that it's less burdensome.
Till next time it's #Yenique.

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