So the cookie just fell out.

   Many times I hear women say "oh I gave it to him too soon" for them that sends a bad message "I'm too cheap","I can't control myself", "I'm a sex freak" blah blah blah. Is all that necessarily true? I generally believe that if a guy wants something serious with you and you stick to the 90 days rule, it's fine, if you give him the cookie straight up, it's fine. I mean his initial response shouldn't be "she slept with me ah ahah I'm so done".He should know there's more cookie where that came from and usually the crunchier ones are below the jar.
     Any half decent man should know there's more to a relationship than sex, he should want to tap into these other resources. Pay attention to these
          *If a guy wants just sex from you, if you like hold back for a thousand days once he gets it, he's out.
          *That theory of "chop and go" is for immature nit-witted guys and seriously what should you be doing with one?
          *Some guys want a side chic, a permanent one. So they might wait only to turn you into permanent sex partner.So if you think making him wait is making him stay...you are wrong.
          *I believe if he's silly enough to come to me just for sex, then he can be manipulated. I can always turn things in my favour.
   Of course protocol says we should get to know each other before sex, but when you finally get another chance to be with him turn the game away from sex and show him the other things you can do. Talk, offer to cook, do something else that shows him this girl is not just a bunch of sexiness.
   Don't go *stress* calling him though, leave him and just wait.I'm not saying you can't pop in a "just hello" call but don't ask to see him or any such thing. Believe me if he's not a nit-wit (and if the sex was goooooood) he'ld call.Then again it all depends on you, some girls ooze sexiness from the first call, some however ooze beauty, charm, intelligence and sexiness all at once. When you act like you are more than a sex object he would treat you much better. Till next time it's yenique have a blessed week.

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