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Turning tables

   It's probably stale news now that most guys sugar coat their intentions when asking a girl out, and also most ladies fall for the sugar coated promises. Although I am all out for saying the truth when relationships are concerned. ..you want sex and companionship, just say it. Well since you won't and we don't have anyway of knowing what's really on your mind...Let's turn the table around for you.
   My first advice is to stop looking and acting desperate, ladies let me inform you,guys can see through your actions and play on your desperation. I know we all want a solid relationship that might lead into something more but he doesn't need to know all that on the first date. Stop asking him about marriage and the like as soon as he asks you out.Things like that actually take time and mostly happens spontaneously, it's not like he'ld see you and immediately know you are his future wife.
   Take things slow, as always that's the way to go. I'm not saying you should give him the 90 days rule or something, infact delaying sex has nothing to do with it. Try to know him, don't plunge heads on . Don't date him for just two weeks and start building your life around him.I know some ladies that spend weeks in a guy's house...a guy they just met.As much as you see him behind closed doors see him outdoors too.
   Play a little game of fetch, seriously let it be obvious to one and all that he's chasing you *literally*.When you finally accept his offer don't let your guards down. Give him the impression that you can still leave. Don't start over loving him, over loving gives him this laid back attitude. Most guys I know don't joke with something/someone they strive to get.There are always a few exceptions though...the coconut head ones.
   We all know the way to a man's heart is through his stomach and of course sex.If you do give him sex make it top notch. Make him come back for more, you have to learn the art.Also if you are a not a good cook or house keeper and he wants you to cook or clean for him, please learn before you go and disgrace yourself. Some guys won't consider you *if you like fine pass Agbani and fire pass Caro* if you can't take care of the house.
   Above all some guys are not just worth rehabilitating. ..they want sex and once they get it they'ld leave.You don't have to worry your head if he does that afterall it's his loss.Moreover you surely deserve better and like I always say there are many more where he came from * winks *.
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  1. Unknown14 August 2014 at 06:34

    Most girls you meet these days always pressurize you for marriage. That's a big turn off. Guys do u agree??

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  2. yenique's page14 August 2014 at 11:28

    Now we know not to do that. ..it's not like it's our fault though

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